Of course he would have.
Frank had spent forty-six years telling me exactly what he thought, sometimes when I very much wished he wouldnβt.
He had never made himself smaller to make somebody else comfortable.
Benny climbed awkwardly onto my shoe.
I scratched behind his ear.
βYesterday, some man looked at this dog and decided he wasnβt worth having around because he was old.β
I shook my head.
βImagine that.β
Benny sneezed.
I laughed.
βYes. Exactly.β
I looked again at Frankβs name carved into the stone.
βMaybe thatβs why it bothered me so much.β
Growing old had already taken enough.
Frank.
Friends.
Energy.
Certainty.
I wasnβt prepared to let it take my dignity too.
Neither was I willing to accept the idea that a creatureβor a personβbecame less deserving of kindness simply because age had changed how they looked.
Benny had cloudy eyes.
A crooked walk.
Missing teeth.
He was still worthy of gentleness.
So was I.
So was the customer who could only afford coffee.
So was the employee who had the courage to speak up.
Respect wasnβt supposed to be something people earned by spending enough money.
It was supposed to be the starting point.
I sat there for a while longer.
Then something occurred to me.
The silence around me didnβt feel nearly as empty as it usually did.
It was quiet.
But peaceful.
There was a difference.
Maybe grief hadnβt become smaller.
Maybe my life had simply started becoming larger around it again.
I looked at Frankβs headstone one last time.
βI think you wouldβve been proud of me.β
The breeze moved softly through the trees.
Of course there was no answer.
There never was.
But for once, I didnβt need one.
I looked down at Benny.
He was patiently waiting beside me, his cloudy eyes facing nowhere in particular.
βCome on, old man.β
I stood carefully this time.
Very carefully.
βWeβre going home.β
Benny rose beside me.
And together, we walked back toward the car.
Neither of us young.
Neither of us particularly impressive to look at.
But both of us still here.
And, as I had finally remembered, that was more than enough reason to take up a little space in the world.